Trust can be defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. The definition seems very clear and straightforward, however for some actually putting trust into action is the equivalent of climbing Mount Everest with no gear, no supplies, and only one arm.trust4reasonsMainPicTopWomenMnt

The thing is trust is something that is irrefutably necessary for the success and happiness of ALL relationships – romantic relationships or friendships.


Here’s why.

As humans we are hardwired to connect with others and trust others. Without connection we would not be able to survive as a species. We thrive off of one another and learn and grow with one another. Beyond this simple fact trust is important for healthy relationships for so many other reasons.




1. We Are Capable of More When We Trust

If we can trust wholeheartedly that someone is there to support us in the toughest of times, it makes previously insurmountable challenges seem like ant hills. Suddenly, what was daunting is now something that is achievable. We, along with that special someone, can more effectively take on the challenges of the world and come out better for it.

2. We’re Less Lonely

Once we realize that it is not us against the world, rather it’s us and our best buds or our partner against the world, we suddenly realize that we don’t have to go through this life alone. Quite often because we think we are alone several of us fall into a pit of bitterness and misery, thinking that we are unlovable or that no one can understand us. In reality, we are putting up giant walls with people because that’s what is safest. When we do this we really aren’t giving people the opportunity to get to know us for fear that we will be judged or disliked—it’s better to not give them the opportunity to judge us than risk rejection.

3. We Are More Authentic

When we trust someone we are trusting them with our deepest, darkest secrets and letting them see the unedited version of us. People truly get to see you, FOR YOU. They see us when we are at our worst, yet they still accept us as we come (at least the worthwhile people do). This means, that for us—there is no more lying, there is no more putting on a mask to try to appease others. The lack of putting on airs and being honest with ourselves and with others is one of the most freeing, profound experiences we will ever know. The exhaustion from the lies will dissipate and we can find an inner sense of peace and harmony.

4. Trusting Gives Us a More Positive View of the World

When we learn that people are generally trustworthy, our entire view of the world changes. For people who distrust others, they are constantly waiting for the bottom to fall out, or the other shoe to drop. They’re constantly fearing the worst, and KNOW that the worst will eventually rear its ugly head. When we begin to trust in the general goodness of others, our view of the world is suddenly no longer dismal and bleak, rather we begin to see people as those who can effect change, as those who can make an impact in the world, and as people who are there to support us in the good times and the bad.

Whether we like it or not, trust is something that is necessary for the continuation of our species and for our own happiness. We owe it to ourselves to try to be the happiest, most successful versions of ourselves, and the foundation for this happiness is trust. Will there be disappointments along our journey of trust? Absolutely! My next blog will be discussing how to handle these disappointments, and what these disappointments actually mean. In the meantime, you should be asking yourself what steps will you be taking today to begin your journey of trust?

10 Responses to “Trust, 4 Reasons Why Trust is Important”

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  1. <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Stuart Fensterheim</a>

    trust and authenticiy go hand in hand for relationships. Your post on authenticity just resonates for me and the couples I see who are seeking this in order to find a secure love. Thanks for being a clinician who speaks those words everyone needs to follow. Your clients are fortunate to have you.
    • <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Thank you Stuart! What a joy your words bring to my day! I am glad to know that you share the same experiences when working with couples and that we are touching on some extremely important issues in our work.
  2. <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Natalie</a>

    Hey Brittainy, this was such a thought provoking post. Especially in the field I work in (Rehab counselling) it can be really hard to build trust when our clients aren't normally self-referred. My approach to building trust is about asking more questions and never assuming I know the answers. Its definitely a challenge and a process but I have always been moved by the idea of walking alongside people rather than leading them. Can't wait to read your post about handling disappointments as we build trust! Natalie
    • <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Natalie! Thanks so much for your post! I often find trust building to be of extreme importance too in my work of counseling. Sometimes it's difficult for us to step out of the expert role and realize we can learn just as much from our clients as they can from us!
  3. <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Michael Diettrich-Chastain</a>

    This is a great article! Trust and vulnerability are such important concepts. I appreciated the emphasis on how trust allows us to make connections. Trust is certainly one of the cornerstones of any kind of relationship.
    • <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Thank you Michael! Trust is indeed a huge cornerstone, and it's sad that so many people's experiences of trust and security can be damaged at such a young age! Hopefully in our work, we can make a difference!
  4. <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Catherine O'Brien</a>

    Great article! Trust is so important in relationships. I was just reminded this weekend that being a bit vulnerable and trusting my partner did make things less daunting and actually achievable.
    • <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Catherine, wow! This is such great feedback! I am glad that you were able to utilize the tips in your own relationship. It definitely makes our relationships less bumpy :)
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