In our last blog, we began reviewing some of the many benefits of couples therapy. In this blog, we will continue to go over reasons why you may want to consider couples counseling with your partner, even if you don’t believe your issues are “that serious.”

Get to the root of your problems

You may find that you and your partner seem to have the same argument over and over again. This generally indicates that there is some sort of root problem that has never been resolved in your relationship. Having the unbiased point of view of a therapist can be a great tool in identifying the deeper problems in your relationship. When you identify these root causes of discord in your partnership, it allows you to address these problems healthily.

Reignite the flame

Over time, it is natural for your passion for your partner to cool slightly. The novelty of falling in love wears off. For healthy couples, while the intense passion may go out, they are still bonded by a deeper intimacy and love for each other. However, if you are having trouble keeping the romance alive with your partner, couples counseling can help you reignite that flame. By getting to know each other on a deeper level through counseling, couples can become acquainted with a new side to their partner, which can re-spark that passion.

Increased trust

Many couples face problems with trusting each other, particularly if infidelity is involved. Couples therapy can help you have more trust in your partner by helping you work through the issues that brought you to this place of mistrust. Infidelity is rarely an isolated problem; it is often caused by other underlying issues in the relationship. By working through these issues in couples counseling, you can learn to trust again.

If you and your partner are looking for a couples counselor, contact Tidemark Therapy. We can meet for a free consultation to see if it is a good match.

24 Responses to “The Benefits of Couples Therapy, Part Two”

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  1. <a href='http://www.helennorman.com.au/contact' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Shad Morris</a>

    My friend has been going through a pretty tough time, and he wasn't sure what to do. It's interesting that couples counseling can actually help you get to the roots of the problem. I'm sure that he would want to know what is going on with his wife, and see how he can help.
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    • <a href='http://www.tidemarktherapy.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Hi, thank you so much for reaching out Shad! I have a soft spot in my heart for your friend. I hope that if you talked to him about couples counseling and that if he is indeed having problems in his relationship or would just like to improve his relationship that he has found adequate help since you made this post. There are couples therapists all over the world, but if you need help specifically finding a couples therapist please let me know! I promise it won't take me as long to respond :)
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  2. <a href='http://www.psychologistduluthmn.com/services.html' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Derek Mcdoogle</a>

    My friend stayed the night at our house last night because his wife was really upset at something he said. You mentioned that having the unbiased point of view of a therapist can be a great tool in identifying the deeper problems in your relationship. Is marriage counseling different from regular couple counseling? Finding an experienced counselor might be their best option.
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    • <a href='http://www.tidemarktherapy.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      I apologize for taking so long to get to you Derek. Marriage counseling is no different from regular couples counseling, save in the fact that if you are a married couple that has been together for several years vs. a newer couple starting out, you have the ability and capacity to form and/or regain a stronger connection with your partner. I would recommend finding an experienced counselor who specifically caters to couples counseling. I find that therapists trained in EFT and/or have been trained in the Gottman method are the most suited for helping couples. I hope this helps!
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  3. <a href='http://www.advantagepsychologicalcenter.com/services' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Ridley Fitzgerald</a>

    I can definitely see the benefits of couples therapy. I like the idea of going to couples to reignite the spark of love. I remember my parents, and how they didn't seem to really passionately love each other after 40. I don't want that!
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  4. <a href='http://servbhs.net/programs-services/outpatient-services' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Tomas Killington</a>

    My wife have been bickering a little more recently. We have discussed that counseling should be on our radar. We didn't take into account that counseling can help us get to the root of our angst against each other and help us make changes to fix it. That's something I'll bring up with her next time we talk.
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    • <a href='http://www.tidemarktherapy.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      I certainly hope that you and your wife are able to resolve your arguments with or without counseling. If you have yet to do so, I would highly recommend checking out the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson.
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  5. <a href='http://www.londoncounsellingservice.co.uk' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Teresa Wilson</a>

    Great Article!! its really informative and innovative keep us posted with new updates. it is really valuable. thanks a lot. anxiety counselling Victoria
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    • <a href='http://www.tidemarktherapy.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Hi Teresa, so glad you enjoyed the article! You inspire me to write more!
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  6. <a href='http://thegoodtherapy.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Kourtney Jensen</a>

    With the people surrounding me, whether it's verbally said or physically noticed, individuals have a tendency to have marital problems and get in to mundane day to day tasks that they don't take time for their relationship/ marriage. I like that you said by going to a therapist you can reignite the flame. If there are any problems you are or aren't aware of, you can help come to a good place with the help of a mutual party. If I was to ever need a counselor, for my marriage or personal reasons, I'd definitely seek help from the professionals.
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    • <a href='http://www.tidemarktherapy.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Brittainy Wagner</a>

      Hi Kourtney thanks so much for stopping by and reading the blog! It's never too late to have hope for a relationship.
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  7. <a href='http://www.ctrfamilyguidance.com/treatment/traditional-treatment/therapy/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>John</a>

    I like how you pointed out that couples therapy is beneficial since it can help you learn to trust your partner again by allowing the two of you to work on your issues together. Although my wife and I don't have any current reason to need counseling together, I think going through therapy with her would be helpful since I think there is strength in unity. Being able to speak with the same counselor at the same time and hearing what each other is feeling and saying seems like it would be a great solution to any sort of problem going on in a relationship.
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  8. <a href='http://mymarriagefirst.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Kylie Dotts</a>

    I didn't realize that having the same argument over and over again could be the result of a problem that hasn't ever been resolved. If you ever got in a situation like this going to a marriage therapist could really do a lot to help you both see what it is that has been bothering you and can help you figure out a way to solve it. Sometimes it just takes a second opinion to be able to see things clearly.
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  9. <a href='http://www.psychandpsych.com/health_issue.php' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Lauren Jones</a>

    My friend and her husband have been married for years, and now that their kids are out of the house, they cannot seem to get along. I was wondering if couples therapy would be a good option for them. It is good to know that over time, it is natural for your passion for your partner to cool slightly. Thanks for informing me that couples therapy can help a couple reignite the flame. I will suggest this to my friend, thanks.
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  10. <a href='http://nefi.org/areas-of-practice.html' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Kylie Dotts</a>

    I like how you said that marriage counselors can help you reignite the flame that may have cooled off a bit over the years. People change and sometimes that can be for the better or the worse. By realizing that you still want to make things work, you open the door for change to happen together as a couple in my opinion which could lead to you saving a marriage instead of losing it.
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  11. <a href='http://clearheartcounselling.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Ashley Turns</a>

    My sister and her husband have been debating going to couples counseling to help them work through some of their issues. So thank you for mentioning that by using this service, they will be able to identify what the true problems are. I'll be sure to suggest that she starts looking for a couples counseling service right now so that they can work through these root problems as soon as possible.
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  12. <a href='https://wexfordpsychologist.com/marriage-counseling.html' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Harper Campbell</a>

    My husband and I have been having some issues lately, and we are considering going to couple's counseling. It's good to know that when it comes to the benefits of going through this process that one of them is that it might help reignite the flame that we might have lost. This might be just what we need, and hopefully we will be able to get past all of our issues.
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  13. <a href='http://www.sharonoconnell.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Spencer Montgomery</a>

    I agree that having the same argument with your partner over and over again may indicate that there is some sort of root problem that has never been resolved in the relationship. I think getting to the root of the problem will open other doors of communication and understanding which may definitely help resolve the issue for a healthier relationship. It's good to know that this is what happens in couples therapy which makes me consider going into one if ever I get caught up in a situation like this.
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  14. <a href='https://abrandtherapy.com/couples-counseling/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Roger Middleton</a>

    My wife and I have been struggling and we've been trying to find a way to help out with everything. I liked that you had mentioned that couple counseling can help increase the amount of trust you have and isolate the issues. We'll have to start looking into getting couple counseling done and I'm hoping that it's something that can benefit us.
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  15. <a href='http://thecenterforfamilycounseling.com/counseling-services/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Tiffany Locke</a>

    I like that this article mentions how a therapist has an unbiased point of view that can help them identify the deeper problems in your relationship. This would be useful to ensure they're able to figure out the best way to help you as a couple. When choosing a therapist, you'd probably want to find one that is in your area and offers couples counseling so that you can fit them into your schedule and get the services you need to help you.
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  16. <a href='http://www.lincolnpsychiatricgroup.com/services' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Monica Chavez</a>

    My best friend got married five years ago, and she has been having some struggles with her husband recently. I like how you pointed out that therapy can help you keep the romance alive with your partner. My friend and her husband would probably really benefit from seeing a counselor to help them get back on track with each other.
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  17. <a href='http://jeanlukens.com/' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Rosie Beckett</a>

    My sister and her husband have been married for a few years and they have noticed that they are fighting a lot more than they used to, so they are thinking of getting couples therapy. I like that you say getting therapy will help you get to the root of your problems so that my sister and her husband can fix those main problems first. Also, the fact that it increases trust in the couple is a huge benefit that I will definitely share with my sister.
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  18. <a href='https://cantwejustgetalongcounselling.com/services/couples-counselling' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Candice Eisenhower</a>

    You made a good point about talking things out with your partner with the presence of a therapist to identify the repetitive arguments you and your partner have been encountering with the aid of a non-biased opinion of an expert listening to you. Lack of communication has been one of the issues that most couples are experiencing, most especially if both are not able to express themselves fully by the time the issue arises. If conflicts like these ever happen to me and my husband, we will definitely be seeking the help of a counselor to sort things out between the two of us.
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    Great Article!! its really valuable information and innovative idea and keep us posted with new article. Thank You Very Much.
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